Accepting our part

Happy Tuesday. So today's thought is on a lesson I am desperately trying to teach my teenager and one of the most important lessons there is: being accountable and taking personal responsibility. When something goes wrong, it is very easy to blame someone else, especially someone close to us. Pay close attention when you do this. When something goes wrong, what is the first pronoun out of your mouth? Is it he or she??? If so, switch it to I. It might be something like this: She really screwed up that email and now we are going to lose that deal - this is defeatess and negative and won't get you anywhere! Try instead to reframe that: I am a great problem solver and I can figure out how to turn this situation around. Or I am a great mentor and I can use this as an opportunity to teach her a valuable lesson.

Here's another example. The way this shows up in my life is usually around things going wrong in the house. I had a friend help with a lot of work when I moved in. When something breaks or I discover something that needs to be done my inner voice starts saying "I can't believe he didn't fix that". So I force myself to turn that into "I really need to take care of that". It is way more empowering to think of it that way. I also really don't need to make my friend wrong. He isn't!

​Good luck as you try this on and have a fantastic day!