We make decisions multiple times every day, right? So why do some of them seem so difficult and rip us apart?
I pride myself on my ability to make quick decisions fairly easily. I have a lot of clarity on who I am and my priorities so decisions usually come to me quite simply. This week, however, I had to make a decision that was causing me stress, anxiety and a loss of sleep. I'm sure everyone can relate to those moments! So what do we do when we have a decision to make and have to choose between what we "want" to do and what we know deep in our hearts and guts we really should do. And by "should" I mean make the decision that is more deeply aligned with who we are. For me, these decisions are usually the "instant gratification" kind - like buying something, going on a trip, eating something fattening.....I know that to do so would be misaligned with my savings goals, my dietary goals, etc. but boy, in the moment, it sure would be fun to do! Those are easier...if we get clear I on our goals, we can typically resist the temptation. But what about those decisions that we need to make that if we make them, we probably will feel better in our gut, but we will probably be letting someone we care about down as a result? For me, these have always been the hardest kind of decisions to make.
This was my experience this week. I was invited to go on a very big trip by one of the closest people in the world to me. I was seduced by the adventure, excitement and warmth of the trip as today was 33 degrees in my hometown. As the trip got closer, however, I failed to get excited about it. The initial anxiety I felt just kept getting larger and larger. I tried to get clarity around what was causing the anxiety. I got super clear on my goals and looked at both going and not going against these goals. I turned to my tribe and got counsel from each one of them as to whether I should go or not (which just helped to clarify my truth ultimately...they don't have the answer - only you do...). I tried to get out of my head and into my heart about the decision - How did I feel if I decided to go? How did I feel if I decided not to go? Removing the intellectual for me is really important as I can debate both sides of anything!
After 3 solid days, I reached my truth and my decision. I am not going. I can't even tell you that I am certain as to why I am not going. I can tell you, however, that what I feel in my heart and my body is that it serves me better at this moment to not go. So I am listening to that despite how much that also saddens me. Sometimes there is not a good or bad decision/a right or wrong answer. Sometimes it's just being super clear about your truth and aligning with that to get to the best answer in this moment. Good luck as you face these battles of your own.
The one constant in life is change. How we navigate that change is who we are. Creating sustainable change is a more deliberate action and gives us the life we want. This is what my practice and my life mission is all about. All of my life experiences, work history and spiritual journey have lead me to this path - to help others create transformation in their lives and live lives that they love.