Today's post was inspired by a book I am reading called Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas. Her amazing book is about thinking about break ups in an entirely new way. Rather that looking at a break up or a divorce as a failure, her theory is that there is a whole new paradigm to consider; We can try to look at break ups as tremendous opportunities for growth and transformation. In her book, she sites a lot of psychology and even anthropology about what happens when we experience a break up or rejection. Rage and periods of sheer madness are normal parts of the process (actually physiological) so they need to be experienced and worked through (not necessesarily acted upon). Once completed, then the act of healing and transforming can occur. I have always tried to look at my break ups as a learning opportunity and my almost ten year divorce is constantly labeled as the most amicable and loving ever seen so I definitely agree with this paradigm and this concept. I have seen many divorces destroy people and their children in the process and decided I wanted to do it another way. I am thrilled that this book proposes that there is a movement out there and we can start to look at relationships, break ups and relationship choices in new ways. In a perfect world, all break ups would leave both parties a little bit stronger, and a bit wiser and even a bit better. I can help you with this process if you are struggling. Contact me and let me know if I can help (and read this book!!!). 😘
The one constant in life is change. How we navigate that change is who we are. Creating sustainable change is a more deliberate action and gives us the life we want. This is what my practice and my life mission is all about. All of my life experiences, work history and spiritual journey have lead me to this path - to help others create transformation in their lives and live lives that they love.