So my hair dresser shared this brilliance with me on Friday and gave me permission to share it (thank you Krissy!). It's so easy to get wrapped around the axel about little things that happen in life like cancelled meetings, lost or broken things or spilled milk. It's even more understandable to get rocked by bigger life events: car accident, work set back or break up. Try this. When you experience fear or anxiety caused by a circumstance, experience your emotions (anger, fear, saddness - whatever) but before you react (as in behave distructively) ask yourself this simple question: will this matter one year from now? My guess is, 95% of the things that bother us daily really won't. So if we know that, perhaps we can let it go today! Happy monday 💖

Today's post was inspired by a book I am reading called Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas. Her amazing book is about thinking about break ups in an entirely new way. Rather that looking at a break up or a divorce as a failure, her theory is that there is a whole new paradigm to consider; We can try to look at break ups as tremendous opportunities for growth and transformation. In her book, she sites a lot of psychology and even anthropology about what happens when we experience a break up or rejection. Rage and periods of sheer madness are normal parts of the process (actually physiological) so they need to be experienced and worked through (not necessesarily acted upon). Once completed, then the act of healing and transforming can occur. I have always tried to look at my break ups as a learning opportunity and my almost ten year divorce is constantly labeled as the most amicable and loving ever seen so I definitely agree with this paradigm and this concept. I have seen many divorces destroy people and their children in the process and decided I wanted to do it another way. I am thrilled that this book proposes that there is a movement out there and we can start to look at relationships, break ups and relationship choices in new ways. In a perfect world, all break ups would leave both parties a little bit stronger, and a bit wiser and even a bit better. I can help you with this process if you are struggling. Contact me and let me know if I can help (and read this book!!!). 😘

At a TKD competition today so borrowing today's blog post. Sometimes facebook posts say it well.

 Happy April! Spring here in the Northeast is such a beautiful time of new beginnings. This afternoon I am taking my kids to the first travel Tae Kwon Do tournament in our center's history. A group of 30-40 of us are going to Vermont, having dinner tonight and then competing tomorrow. It has created quite a buzz and our kids are so excited! It fills my soul completely to know that my family is part of this extended unit and that I have this village that supports us, loves us and reinforces the values I try to instill in our family. If I think of this on a broader level, I have several communities in my life for myself and my kids: our school communities, my local yoga community, my positive psychology community, our place of worship community. Having community acts like an extended family and allows me to navigate through this life never feeling alone. I challenge you to thing about your communities in your life and think about how to nurture them so they provide this for you. If you don't have any, look at places in your life where you might be able to cultivate them. Have a great weekend!!